Let me tell you
My Story...
I didn’t grow up with the perfect life story. I’m adopted. My parents were never married, they had a secret relationship, and from the start I carried a split identity: half French, half Belgian, raised in a small city near Ghent, surrounded by sisters, aunts, and nieces. A complete overdose of feminine energy but no father to teach you important lessons.
Piano Prodigy
I was also very introverted and extremely shy growing up. I was a sensitive, artistic boy who was scared of almost everything. Talking to girls was completely impossible. As a kid I was a piano prodigy. In my fantasy I was going to be an artist, but in reality I never lived up to that potential. Drugs and alcohol got in the way. Many of my friends were lost in the same spiral, and I burned through one toxic relationship after the other.
Toxic relationships
This is the only remaining picture of one of my most toxic relationships. Waking up hallucinating after detoxing from drinking and cocaine were not unusual. I knew deep down I wanted more, but I had no idea how to break free. Instead, I found myself in toxic relationships, alcohol abuse, and drugs.
Drugs & Alcohol
This wasn’t just about one relationship. It was a lifestyle. Nights blurred together in alcohol, drugs, and chaos. Looking back, I realize how much time I lost there but also how badly I wanted to escape mediocrity. At one point I even needed medication to quit drinking and went to rehab. For years I lived with self-limiting beliefs, low self-esteem, and a culture that told me to stay small, stay safe, and never step out of line.
The Artist Lifestyle
This is me in Seville, Spain in 2018. Music became my identity. I traveled, I played on the streets of France, Spain and Italy. Sounds cool, right? In reality I wasn’t fully free. Behind the scenes an alcoholic and inside I was still fighting my own limiting beliefs. I missed out on countless opportunities with girls.
The Suit and the Lie
Later, I got a "real job". On paper, I was doing well. I wore a suit, worked as a hotel manager, and looked like I had it together. But the truth is, I was stuck in a toxic job. It was a golden cage: stable, but soul-crushing.
Once I walked out the hotel? Couldn't talk to women at all.
Cold Approach
Everything changed when I discovered cold approach. Not just dating, but learning how to take action instead of being stuck in my head. I stopped overanalyzing, overthinking, and living in my anxieties. Cold approach taught me to face reality, solve problems in the real world, and rebuild myself from zero. It shattered my limiting beliefs. It gave me real confidence. It gave me the power to leave jobs I hated, start a business, and multiply my income.